And the Evangelist would not have said before they came together if they were not to come together, for no one would use the phrase before he dined of a man who was not going to dine. Most countries have laws which set a minimum marriage age , with the most common age being 18 years, reduced to 16 in "special circumstances", typically when the female partner is pregnant, but the actual age at first marriage can be considerably higher. The rulers of Ephesus were curious to know what made him do this thing, whereupon he replied that if he could not have fame for good deeds , all men should give him credit for bad ones. Here is an example of the rule already referred to, by which a nephew is called a brother. Even if you don't end up talking to them beforehand, you may want to have someone you could contact in case of emergency.